Orange, Apple, Tomato, Cranberry, Pomegranate!
I'm hilarious.
But for real, it's been a crazy week. Last Tuesday (as in the one still in October, not the one like four days ago, we decided to give Dave Willis's "Marriage Makeover" a try. (See it Here)
We realize that at this point it's not so much a makeover for us as things we are trying to get into a habit of doing. So every night for a week, we had our hour of technology-free talking time, had intimate time, and we were mostly successful at praying together and "not being negative" every night too.
Both of us agree that the part that we enjoyed the most was having that hour without any distractions to just talk and hang out. No phones, no iPads, no computers, just us with our thoughts.
Our week ended on Tuesday, but we're still continuing to have our hour every night. I think that's one thing we're going to keep doing, if it means some nights we don't get to go to sleep until 1:00. It's so easy to give in to exhaustion after our long days of work and class, but at the same time, it's nice to use what little time we have together actually being together, instead of just existing in the same place but actually being in our little iPad or Netflix worlds.
I think a lot of couples underestimate the importance of just hanging out together. We tend to take the attitude of "money is power" way too far, even in the bedroom. It's always about getting something done. But when was the last time we just stopped, sat down, put down the phones, and had a nice conversation without worrying about running late to somewhere?
The night after we finished the week-long makeover, we were so exhausted that when we got home we ate and then crashed. And all the next day it was just sad. I already missed that one little hour of just hanging out. So we went back to doing it the next night, no matter how exhausted we were or how much packing or homework needed to be done. Crazy how much one hour can make a huge difference!
Which brings me to my next point. It's crucial to make time for each other. Work and school are both very important, yes, but if we allow our extracurricular activities to take the rest of our time, are we really having successful relationships? No.
Let's not even go into how wrong "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is. Like, there have been studies proving the opposite. (Don't ask me what studies, I just read a side note in the Arranged Marriages study that mentioned that studies have proved it false)(Proved is one of those words that sounds super weird after saying it a couple times.. Proved, proved, proved...)
Anyway. Super short post today, I know. But it's been a busy weekend of waking up early and moving everything..
Moral of the story, even if you have a fantastic marriage (like us) it's good to get into the habit of doing things that will help the marriage stay amazing.
Like giving little kids milk all the time so when they're old they don't have osteoporosis.
Fun thoughts :)
Our week ended on Tuesday, but we're still continuing to have our hour every night. I think that's one thing we're going to keep doing, if it means some nights we don't get to go to sleep until 1:00. It's so easy to give in to exhaustion after our long days of work and class, but at the same time, it's nice to use what little time we have together actually being together, instead of just existing in the same place but actually being in our little iPad or Netflix worlds.
I think a lot of couples underestimate the importance of just hanging out together. We tend to take the attitude of "money is power" way too far, even in the bedroom. It's always about getting something done. But when was the last time we just stopped, sat down, put down the phones, and had a nice conversation without worrying about running late to somewhere?
The night after we finished the week-long makeover, we were so exhausted that when we got home we ate and then crashed. And all the next day it was just sad. I already missed that one little hour of just hanging out. So we went back to doing it the next night, no matter how exhausted we were or how much packing or homework needed to be done. Crazy how much one hour can make a huge difference!
Which brings me to my next point. It's crucial to make time for each other. Work and school are both very important, yes, but if we allow our extracurricular activities to take the rest of our time, are we really having successful relationships? No.
Let's not even go into how wrong "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is. Like, there have been studies proving the opposite. (Don't ask me what studies, I just read a side note in the Arranged Marriages study that mentioned that studies have proved it false)(Proved is one of those words that sounds super weird after saying it a couple times.. Proved, proved, proved...)
Anyway. Super short post today, I know. But it's been a busy weekend of waking up early and moving everything..
Moral of the story, even if you have a fantastic marriage (like us) it's good to get into the habit of doing things that will help the marriage stay amazing.
Like giving little kids milk all the time so when they're old they don't have osteoporosis.
Fun thoughts :)
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